Venus Conjunct Pluto
This morning as I was consumed with
getting ready to leave the house,
my eldest sat on my bed -
seemingly impervious to my haste -
playing me various key-stroke audio samples from Youtube
“do you like this sound best, or this one?
…. what about this one?”
Intent on customising me my own keyboard, he has spent the past few days looking for moments to inform me of all the different
variables and possibilities.
Struggling to discern the difference between mechanical vs membrane keys, whilst coercing my toddler’s shoes on, I tried to summons the patience and presence to orientate towards what was ultimately a sincere display of love and provision
Through the form of his values
- technology and mechanics.
To meet him there,
in those simple and fleeting invitations
into connection
and the hive of his mind
seems so much more precious and necessary
as we stand on the brink of teenage years.
Each day i find myself fumbling for balance between the honouring of his fierce call for individuation through his own values whilst still calling him back into the shared values needed to maintain family life
Venus has just joined Pluto, ushering in a few weeks of deepened relational exploration
Pluto’s penetrative gaze will be bringing into sharpened focus the things we value most
Venus is associated with what we value
Which is inextricably linked to how we offer our love
And equally how we receive love from others.
When we fail to recognise the differences between what we value, and the values of those around us
gestures of love and support can sometimes get lost in translation.
We may try incessantly to orientate others towards what we feel is of upmost importance
Only to feel let down and unseen when they fail to align their priorities with ours
Sometimes, we may try to position others as wrong or bad.
Or conversely,
we may contort ourselves
trying to meet the needs and expectations of those around us
only to lose the anchor of what is most valuable to ourselves.
When we align our energy and our priorities with that which we most deeply value,
we create a deep sense of inner value
that soothes the frenzied grasping,
cajoling
debating
which demands others validation in order that we may feel rooted in the truth of who we are
It is from a place of deep rootedness that we can best approach the delicate dance of relatedness
to hold firmly
and speak lovingly
from the truth of our capacity
and to soften into the infancy of learning
new ways of listening, honouring and receiving
as we find a shared pathway
free of dominance or subjugation
through the space between